Booty Call For Love

I guess I am wondering if I am letting myself be used.

It depends on your definition. Lets agree that being used means you give without getting anything back.

I have been seeing a guy for about 7 months. We have never gone out on an official "date". Just to a bar and to his aparmtent to play cards watch tv etc..

Would that innocent sounding "etc", per chance, mean "hot, wild sex"?

I fell for him early on and told him I felt. He has told me he does not want a serious relationship and has never wavered on this.

But he did want the sex, didn´t he?

This prompted me to agree to be "friends with beneftis" as we have great sex and I did not want to give this up. We really have a great time together etc..

I still can´t see how you are being used.

I thought I could keep my emotions at bay but I have not heard from him for 2 weeks (usually I see him 2-3 times a week) and it is driving me crazy and making me realize my feelings again.

So you can´t take the heat. What are you going to do about it?

I know it seems pretty clear looking at this that I am a fool.

Mildy so, yes.

The problem is when I am with him he makes comments that elude to the future or at least that make it sound like one day he wants to be with me in a more serious way.

He´s just dangling a carrot in front of you. If a man does decide to get serious, the last person he´d choose would be his bone-buddy.

Does it sound like I am just holding out hope for something that will never be?

Yes.

I should mention that when I do see him it is usually a 1000pm or 1100pm text message..(booty call).

We established that already.

This relationship is killing me...I cannot seem to get him out of my system!

Then I´ll guess you´ll just have to stick around until he´s through with you.

I keep giving him leeway because he has 3 children and an ex wife who left him and I just think he needs time.

Time for what? To win her back? You might want to ask her why she left him.