Dating Sites And The Bored Boyfriend
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. Well about a year into our relationship I was using his computer and I accidently (my ass) hit the history button and saw all the websites he had been going to. One of them was a "dating" website.
Yawn. Was it at least a gay dating site?
When I started looking a little bit further I saw that he had been looking up girls that had profiles in our area and he even had a profile up that said he was "single and looking".
Of course. You don't go about setting profiles at dating sites if you aren't "looking" in some way or another.
I was furious and confronted him about it. He said it was just a stupid thing that he did when he was bored (?!) and he would never contact any of those girls and he would NEVER cheat on me.
And like a good, desperate girlfriend I believed that.
Of course he went off and said I had no right to be snooping.
So? Every cheater/liar says that. People, who have nothing to hide, could care less.
First, of all he is very shy and it is hard to believe that he would go out and cheat on me.
But the way I think of it, is why even bother putting up a profile if you are not interested. I thought he was just playing with fire. Anyways, I forgave him and told him not to do it again.
(fingerscrossing) Yes mom!
The day before yesterday he was using my computer and he left his email open. I know I should have not done it, but I looked in it really not expecting anything.
I saw that he had registered on match.com on a night that we had an argument. Needless to say I was furious. I looked him up on that site and it said once again that he was looking for "something casual, with no strings attached."
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
While I was livid I registered on the website with a fake profile that I knew would interest him, since I know what he likes. I (as my fake profile) actually even sent him a note today that I was interested in him. I don't like playing games, and now that I have cooled off I am itching to say something to him.
Ok, so you go wail to him, "Wah, I found anoooother profile. How could you do this to me after I told you not to?" and he says "So? I was bored/pissed, it didn't mean anything....Wait minute, what were you doing snooping in stuff again. What the fuck's wrong with you? You better do something about that jealousy, girl, if you keep it up you'll make me got out on you for real!"
What will you say then?
He doesn't have any clue that I saw his email and I have been acting all sweet with him and asking if he loves me and is he really into our relationship, if he is bored.
You can quit patting yourself on the back, Miss Detective. Unless that's your usual (lame) way of acting, you're being anything but subtle.
I just don't get it, we hardly ever fight and I try to give him space when I sense he needs it and we just get along well.
ie. I am such a doormat, why would he go out on me when there is nothing I wouldn't do for him. Hell, I'd even go for a threesome if he asked me sweet enough. (But only if it were with another guy)
He treats me great and is loving, helps me with everything, is always calling me and coming over
...to check his e-mail and get some free nookie.
I don't want to get into a fight with him but I just can't drop this nagging feeling.
ie. Even I, in my infinite stupidity, can't deny it any longer...
I am tempted to see if he would go through doing something with my online alter ego and at the same time I just want to confront him about the whole thing...
Of course I could kick his ass to the curb too. But nah, way too simple, not enough drama.
Oh and I forgot to mention, once I saw the new website, I went to the original one that I caught him on and his profile is still up. He even added new pictures to the site and he even had the balls to add a picture that I took of him that I just LOVED. It pisses me off that he would use that picture to pick up other girls. I am fuming!!!
Go take a cold shower. It just might stimulate your undeveloped mental facilities.