Geographical Cure

I have been dating my Boyfriend for about 2 years now. I love my boyfriend and he is a great guy. He has treated me better then any other boyfriend but I have only been in two relationships.

After reading the letter I shudder to think what the others were like.

We both dream of moving to florida and living together. I would love to see this happen but I can't. I have graduated college, started my career and I'm ready to move on in life. He, on the other hand, quit his job about a year and a half ago and is still jobless.

Look, this isn't brain surgery, and you don't need to sleep with 20 dudes to figure it out either. If you are dating a "great...but" guy, then you get your butt off the sofa and get moving on.

He blames this on his criminal background for something he did at the age of 18 and he is now 28. He says that if we move to florida he can find a job.

Of course.

He has been filling out applications here and thats all. He shows no motivation when it comes to getting a job (he will get an interview but never follow up) and I think he really doesnt want one.

But...but... what makes you think that?

He is still living with his dad and his dad supports him. He plays Everquest online or plays cards online all day everday or watches tv. Again no motivation. He also is constantly watching and downloading exstreme amounts of porn and masterbating about twice a day.

And this, ladies and gentlemen, is the average woman's definition of a "great guy."

I wouldnt mind this but sometimes it makes me uninterested in having sex.

Having a non-starter for a boyfriend was never exactly conductive to the female libido.

And there are even times when he does not get aroused, cause he was masturbating too much already that day.

Pass the tissues.

So the fact that he has no job and does not show a want for one makes it hard to believe he will change if we move to florida together. Also his lack of motavation and want to do nothing but watch tv, play games, watch porn, and go out with his friends is starting to make me loose interest.

Well, obviously a part of your deductive reasoning is still operational, but...

I would love to see my dream come true "him with a job and me still in my career living happily in florida"

...I'd say the majority of the damage is permanent.

Is this possible?

I hear they do great things with voodoo these days.

What do I do...part of me wants to stay but part of me wants to go.

You are depressing me. Go away.